When it's a mind-blowing, bed-rattling orgasm you're after, keeping it simple is absolutely key. Sure, wild, crazy, never-knew-my-body-could-bend-that-way booty keeps your lust life exciting, but if the goal of the moment is to break pleasure records, you have to stick to the basics. "Trying to accomplish complicated acrobatics distracts you from the sex itself, putting your focus on how you can contort yourself, rather than on just experiencing the sensations," explains sex educator Dorian Solot, coauthor of I (Heart) Female Orgasm. "When you want to climax, the simplest positions are often also the best positions, and with a few modifications, you can make them even more orgasm inducing than they already are." Don't worry, we'd never leave you hanging. Here, Cosmo custom-designed some of the carnal classics to make sure you always hit the high notes.
You'll never see missionary position the same way again. "While on your back, put a pillow under your butt, lift your hips, and bring your legs up and back toward your shoulders, as though you're folding in half," says Solot. This move allows him better ease of thrusting and deeper penetration — a perk for both of you. Plus, it can stimulate your G-spot. But consider this a warm-up — you're getting the zone primed for a more intense orgasm. Once your G-spot feels sufficiently stroked, put your legs down and have him get into coital-alignment-technique (CAT) position. "He's on top, but he lifts his pelvic bone upward, aligning it with your clitoris," says sex therapist Gloria Brame, PhD. "Then he rocks against the area until you peak." "The legs-up position is a slow burn that brings you to the brink and increases sensitivity. Then the addition of clitoral rubbing takes you over the edge in a bigger way than if you had done CAT alone," adds Brame.
You've probably tried an all-fours pose before (at least, we hope you have!). But while mentally the doggie-style position has great bad-girl benefits, in order to make it actually orgasmic, you need to modify it a bit. "Lie on your stomach, lifting your butt slightly so he can enter you," suggests Solot. "Your partner can prop himself up with his hands in a push-up position or lie on top of you." Not only does this facedown configuration provide increased friction as he moves in and out, but you can gently grind your clitoral area against the bed as well.
With all the twisting and bending that goes on, sometimes sex can feel more like a cardio workout than a pleasurefest. That's why it's important to have at least one relaxed orgasm — inducing position in your repertoire. Such as this: "While you're on your back, he should lie on his side, turned toward you," explains Solot. "Swing both legs over his hips and thighs, making a bridge over them." Then, just let him gently thrust into you. If it takes you a while to climax, this pose is ideal. "It's not very aerobic, so the sex can go on for a long time without either of you tiring out," says Laura Berman, PhD, director of the Berman Center and author of The Passion Prescription. "When you want to climax, it's easy to touch yourself or he can use his top hand to stimulate you."
Girl-on-top tends to be a go-to for achieving orgasm...and for good
reason! "It allows you to dictate the pace and depth of thrusting, but
mainly, you have easy access to your clitoris," says Berman. "You can
touch your C-spot, have him touch it, or rub against his pubic bone to
achieve orgasm." But you can up the ante by literally pulling a 180.
Twist around so you're pointed toward his feet in reverse cowgirl
position. "Instead of straddling him, put your legs together, feet flat
between his legs," suggests Brame. The benefits of this are twofold:
With your legs together, the fit is even tighter, making the sensations
more intense. Plus, there's increased G-spot stimulation, which combined
with your own clitoral strokes, makes for an explosive orgasm.
In some cases, a simple
change of scenery can aid in achieving orgasm. For this move, you'll
need a kitchen table — one that comes to your man's waist. "Lie down on
the table with your butt near the edge," suggests Solot. "He enters you
while standing between your legs, holding on to your hips for leverage."
You can rest your feet on his shoulders or on the edge of the table.
Because he's standing, his hands are free to stroke your body," says
Brame. "And he's at a perpendicular angle, rather than right on top of
you, making it easier for him to touch your clitoris, unobstructed." To
up your odds of orgasming, clench and lift up your butt, which will
increase the pelvic tension and blood flow to the area.
This one's always a fan
favorite — he sits and you straddle him so you're face-to-face. "You
have a lot of control over the speed, angle, and motion because you can
use your arms and legs to help you maneuver," says Berman. "Rather than
just moving up and down, which can be especially tiring for you, sway
forward and back, rubbing your clitoral area against him." In addition
to the freedom of movement, there are a few other benefits to this booty
move. "If you lean back just a little bit, you'll get greater G-spot
stimulation and he'll be able to play with your clitoris," Brame
explains. Plus, your breasts will be perfectly aligned with his mouth,
adding a whole other layer to the sexual experience.
Obviously, you know
emotional attachment is essential to achieving orgasm with your guy. And
there's no configuration that's more snuggly than the spoon. To assume
the position, simply lie on your side, your guy scooted up behind you.
Rather than move in and out, he should stay inside you, gently thrusting
against the front wall of your vagina. "Aside from fulfilling your
cuddly needs, it provides consistent stimulation to your G-spot, which
is key for achieving orgasm from intercourse," Berman points out. "Since
he may not be able to penetrate you as deeply though, guide his hand
around your hot spot." And just think: Once you've both climaxed, you'll
be in perfect postcoital position as well.When it comes to achieving
supreme pleasure, being in the right mind-set is half the battle.
Let your thoughts wander.
It helps to transport yourself mentally to a sexy place. Fantasize that
you're getting it on in a lust-inspiring locale or even with another
man, like a hot trainer at your gym or, hell, Justin Timberlake. No
guilt — it doesn't mean you want to cheat on your guy.
Strengthen your senses.
Certain smells and sounds can have a Pavlovian affect on your libido.
Think about what puts you in the mood, and then designate an enhancer
that will signal to your brain and body that it's time to get naughty.
For example, before sex, put on a sultry jazz CD.
Be selfish.
Worrying too much about your guy's pleasure means you wind up ignoring
your own. So silence the inner monologue of "How am I doing?" and simply
enjoy the experience. Otherwise, it becomes more work than play.
Stay on course.
A stressful day's memories can still manage to sneak up on you, even
when you're mid-mattress session. To stay in the moment, try to focus
your thoughts purely on the physical and pay attention to how every
touch, lick, and stroke feels.
