RESOLVING CONFLICT IN MARRIAGE

A marriage, millions of people dream of the day they will get married. But do they dream of the conflict that might come with that marriage? Absolutely not.  Disagreements are sure to happen in a marriage, but they do not have to lead to hurtful arguments. Here are some suggestions to help resolve conflicts with your spouse.

1. Agree to always listen to each others feelings, even if you disagree with the appropriateness of those feelings.

2.Fight eye to eye. If the fighting has already started, sit down, and discuss it eye to eye. If your spouse is not willing to sit down, be the 'bigger person' in the conversation and ask them nicely to sit down.
3.Commit yourselves to both honesty and acceptance.

4.Do not pick at the other for little things. For example, your husband might move some of the pillows on to the other chair when he comes home from work everyday and everyday you put them back. Make it a habit! Do not pick at your husband for doing that. Also, if your wife likes to rearrange your mail, give it to her to put in order so that both of you are happy. Nagging at what the other does, doesn't help one bit.

5. Limit the conflict to the here and now – never bring up past failures, since all past failures should have already been forgiven.

6.Appreciate one another. A thank you for something nice here and there didn't hurt someone. Also, saying sorry to someone, even if they made the mistake, can make a big difference.

7.Focus on that issue rather than attacking each other.

8Let the other make mistakes. No one is perfect, people make mistakes. Do not hold down the other when you wouldn't want to be held down for a mistake.

9.Never say anything derogatory about your mate’s personality. Proverbs 11:12 tells us that he who despises (belittles) his neighbor lacks sense (NASB).

10.Spend quality time together. What was the real reason you married the person? To have kids and that's it? I highly doubt that's why most people marry. The person you married is for a companion many people long to have but sometimes never get. Someone who's your best friend when your best friend isn't around. Back to reality, when spending quality time with your significant other it doesn't mean going shopping for 5 hours or going to a baseball game which only one might enjoy. It means take the time out to enjoy the weather to talk, to play, to take a stroll down a country road or even speed race each other at the go-carts.

HOW TO MAKE SEX EXCITING IN A MARRIAGE

How can anything be novel or exciting, and how do they beat the boredom? What you must remember is that no one is the same person each day, each month, or each year. A healthy marriage helps each person grow and evolve. The healthier the marriage, the more you can embrace and expect each person to grow and change. The way a couple communicates their love changes, too.
Great sex is highly correlated with understanding your partner. For women, the more secure and comfortable they are with their partner, the more unconventional and open to new things they will be. This affects their partner and is what makes their partner love sex with them. Men's need for visual variety is much higher than women's. Men may use this as an excuse for why they visit men's clubs or invest in pornography, when in truth, this is a rote and "in the box thinking" excuse.
Women's tendencies to not value intimacy or sex as much as they do their children and their numerous other chores stems from societal pressures. Women don't use sex as a stress reliever as men do, because it isn't a stress reliever. It becomes a chore when a woman feels as if she has numerous jobs to do, and lists pleasing her husband as another one of those jobs. Many women don't understand the importance of their sexual health and how important sex is to a healthy marriage.

HOW TO MAKE SEX  EXCITING IN A MARRIAGE

NO More Excuses. It hurts. He snores so we don’t sleep in the same room. I’m uncomfortable with my body. I have a disturbing or painful sexual past. Please hear me on this: I’m not trying to make light of all these situations, but some of them can be serious. Even so, sex is so important to your relationship that you must work like crazy to work through these issues in your marriage so you can have great sex. You might need to go to counseling to work through your past, you might need to hit the gym so you feel better about your body, you might need to get some of those strips to go over your nose and prevent you from snoring. Whatever your situation is, I seriously am tired of hearing excuses on why you are not having sex. Start having sex. In order to start having sex you need to work through your junk. Today. Attack this stuff so it doesn’t keep you out of the bedroom any longer.The brain is the largest sex organ. You have to start here to feel good about sex. If you are angry or anxious at a partner, you have to deal with the brain first. Anger that is held in does not create good sex or help you to feel sexy.

Your Attitude.  Embrace yourself   you don't need to be a perfect size. If you have curves and hips, embrace them. This is one of the most beautiful aspects of women. Most of us have flaws, cellulite, acne, or wrinkles. These "flaws" will not distract from a beautiful smile or a warm embrace. Take a lesson from your man. Men are much better at embracing their flaws than women are.

Fantasize. The more you think about sex, the more you will want it, so be sure to take time to think about it. Read romance novels, listen to music, and watch movies. I caution couples not to share their fantasies unless they involve one another.Foreplay. The name tells you what it is for. Healthy marriage foreplay starts first thing in the morning and lasts all day. Make sure you stay connected during the day with a quick call or text. Sexual intercourse is only one small part of sex. There are so many ways to be intimate in your marriage, so why get hung up on only one?
 Twice a week. Practice makes perfect. Sure, sex is a great chance to have an orgasm, but more than that, sex connects you and brings you closer. You won’t have great sex the first time and you probably won’t have great sex the first year of marriage every time. I have been married 9years now and I can honestly say it gets better and better. The more comfortable you are with your spouse (and with your own bodies), the more in love you grow with each other. But, you have to work at it and this can only happen when you are having sex.

 The other person comes first. I can cut to the chase on this one and just say make your spouse cum first and leave it at that. I am not trying to be tasteless here – I’m being honest! Look, porn has taught so many people what they like (or so they think) and how they like it, and a lot of people approach sex in marriage with this selfish attitude. You want to have great sex in marriage? Then remember your partner and their needs and their likes. Make it a point to serve your spouse in this way. Let’s be honest, not every girl likes it from behind as much as men do, so men, make sure your wife is taken care of not just you

Dress for sex all the time Wearing sexy lingerie or silk boxers (or nothing at all) underneath your work clothes or sweats even will help you feel sexy and a little naughty. This will put you in the mood for sex and throughout the day will have you anticipating the moment you finally get to have sex. It will also serve as a lovely surprise as your husband or wife undresses you. White cotton granny panties, after all, can really kill the mood.

Be spontaneous  While some people have to schedule sex to make sure it happens, there is something exhilarating about having sex with your partner unexpectedly. If your husband is in the bathroom getting ready for work and you rub against him, push him against the wall, and give him a kiss and it leads to sex right then and there, you’ll both start the day with a smile. Some couples even enjoy sex in public places. But that can get risky because if you get caught, it’s against the law. Your couch or the kitchen table in the middle of the day are better alternatives.

Start early and keep the lights on. This is a 2 for 1. Maybe one for the guys and one for the girls. Guys, don’t just touch your wife when you want sex. Be affectionate and start earlier in the day. Kiss, hug, gross out your kids, and then don’t wait till right before bed to have sex. Tired sex is not great sex. Turn off Modern Family or CSI or Sports center and get to it. Women, remember men are visual as well; both you and your husband need to feel comfortable when having sex but if you can be comfortable with the lights on, then great sex happens

 Husbands initiate. I just saved so many of you couples a ton of hours of fighting and angry nights. I don’t know how many couples I talk to who argue over and over and over about this one. “My wife doesn’t initiate sex enough” So, then that leads men to play games. “I wonder how many days I can go without having sex to see if she will ask for it.” Dumb. Don’t play games like this. I’m not trying to be a sexist here, nor am I saying women can’t initiate sex (I sure don’t complain anytime my wife initiates). What I am saying is: just take it off the table and initiate as often as you need to.

 Connect in and out of Bed. You and you spouse need to be partners. You need to be best friends. You need to enjoy each other as people and be connected emotionally. Without that, then your sex life is just going to be strictly physical and won’t be great.
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