HOW TO BOOST YOUR LIBIDO

sexual dysfunction affects both men and women of all ages for a variety of reasons, including old age, chronic illness, stress, and anxiety. But there are things you can do to put the sizzle back into your sex
 Plan more date nights

If a fun Saturday night with your hubby means watching Showtime in sweatpants, it could be killing your sex drive. Rekindle your romance by getting out of the house for an old-fashioned date. Your dates don’t need to be grand romantic evenings; just going to the movies or out to dinner can reignite the spark you felt when you first met. “If it’s too expensive to hire a nanny, ask your friends with kids to watch yours for the night and offer to return the favor,”

Take a Bite Out of a Forbidden Fruit

While little evidence supports the effectiveness of such substances, there’s no harm in experimenting with the much touted libido-boosting foods, known as aphrodisiacs.
Figs, bananas, and avocados are just a few of the foods known to arouse both men and women simply by their suggestive appearance. But these foods also provide important vitamins and minerals that can potentially increase blood flow to the genitals and promote a healthy sex life.

Divide household chores equally

After a long day of work, you may head home for your other full-time job: being a parent. “After the kids go to bed, there’s often cleanup followed by work that you’ve brought home,“As a result, intimacy gets pushed to the background.” If you and your partner are both working full-time, keeping the division of household labor equal and ensuring one partner doesn’t shoulder the whole burden will make both of you happier in the bedroom and out.

Take Your Daily Herbs

Next time you decide to sit down for a romantic dinner, add a little basil or garlic to your dish. The smell of basil stimulates the senses and garlic contains high levels of allicin, which increases blood flow and may help men with erectile dysfunction. Yohimbine, an alkaloid found in the bark of the West African evergreen, has long been known to function as a natural Viagra. Some studies suggest that Yohimbine bark can help you obtain and maintain an erection and enhances the quality of an erection.  However, researchers say there is no natural equivalent to match Viagra.

Set your room up for romance

It’s easy to get in the habit of letting your kids crawl into bed with you after they’ve had a bad dream, or sharing cuddle time with your cat or dog. These are major mood killers, who suggests keeping the kiddos and pets out by simply locking the bedroom door at night. It may take some time to break these habits, but making the bed sexy again will make you more relaxed and ready for romance.

Boost Your Self-Confidence

The way you feel about your body affects the way you feel about sex. An unhealthy diet and lack of exercise can not only cause you to have a poor self-image, but it can discourage you from having and enjoying sex.

Add sex to your to-dos

We schedule doctor’s appointments, work meetings, and drinks with friends—so why not sex? It’s not the most romantic approach, but setting aside a specific time with your significant other
Exercise often. Less stress, an improved mood, and higher self-esteem are all health benefits of exercise—and together they can rev up your sex drive. In fact, a recent study found that women who were taking antidepressants and were experiencing a dulled libido (a common side effect) improved sexual satisfaction by doing three 30-minute sweat sessions per week.means you’re making a commitment to having an active sex life. This way, you’ll feel compelled to keep the appointment and be less likely to make excuses.

Take Time to Meditate and Relieve Stress

No matter how healthy you are, being stressed out is going to affect your sex drive. women are particularly susceptible to the effects stress can have on one’s sex life. Men, on the other hand, can sometimes use sex as a way to relieve stress, which can cause conflict.

Use a lubricant

Getting in the mood can be almost impossible if sex is painful for you—but it doesn’t have to be. One of the leading causes is dryness. “If vaginal dryness is causing pain during intercourse, try using a silicone-based sexual lubricant or a vaginal moisturizer,” suggests Dr. Millheiser. “Silicone lubricants are longer-lasting and more moisturizing than the water-based alternatives. If this doesn’t improve the situation, you may want to check with a gynecologist to see if vaginal estrogen therapy is appropriate.”